Jesus makes it clear that following him means taking up your cross and dying to yourself. That’s what a follower is committing to. I can only imagine the awkward tension as Jesus lays out this expectation for his followers. Unfortunately, many churches today have decided that this message is too uncomfortable and the cross is too offensive. As a result, there are many fans who call themselves followers, but they’re not carrying a cross.
– Idleman, Kyle; Not a Fan: Becoming a Completely Committed Follower of Jesus; Zondervan; copyright 2011; Grand Rapids, MI; Kindle Edition; page 162