Astoundingly we often try to make God an accomplice in the pursuit of our idols. James, the half brother of Jesus, said that sometimes when we pray, we don’t get what we ask for because, “you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions. You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God?” (James 4:3-4)
We can “pray like adulterers.” That’s a pretty disturbing analogy, but what does it mean? An adulterer is someone who finds in another the intimacy they should be finding in their spouse. We are adulterers to God when we demand that He give us certain things so that we can find a happiness, contentment, and security in these things that really should be finding in Him.
– Greear, J.D.; Gospel: Recovering the Power that Made Christianity Revolutionary; B&H Publishing Group; Nashville, TN; Copyright 2011; Kindle Edition; page 74