The gap between who we are and who we should be always produces a reaction. If we’re criticized, we defend. If we’re rejected, we sulk. It’s never neutral. When we feel the weight of judgment against us, those who are addicted to their own sense of control – all of us – tend to slip into the slavery of self-salvation. Our three most common and instinctual self-salvation strategies are fight, flight or appeasement. All of them are consuming, but none is particularly productive. The opposite, in fact.
– Tchividian, Tullian; One Way Love: Inexhaustible Grace for an Exhausted World; David Cook Publishers; copyright 2013; Kindle Edition; Location 805