To be clear, I absolutely believe in our collective need to repent and confess our sins to one another (James 5:16). I am only cautioning against doing so outside the context of the countervailing, scandalous nature of God’s unconditional love. It is, after all, “God’s kindness [that] leads you toward repentance” (Romans 2:4), repentance being nearly synonymous with honesty. The confidence that “there is no no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1) is the engine that fuels honesty with one another, about both our ongoing sin and our ongoing suffering. Fortunately, this is the good news that lies at the heart of the gospel. But I disagree.
– Tchividjian, Tullian; Glorious Ruin: How Suffering Sets You Free; David C Cook Publishers, Copyright 2013, Kindle Edition, page 71